Some can be boorish, some can be egotistical (even though they are bland!), most are scared and vulnerable and are compensating (egoistically) the best they can, and some are sweet. Some have given up on finding goodness in another, preferring instead to play and outwit. Most have had their trust damaged. Some are willing (somehow) to be open again (and this always amazes me). The expectations they live under can crush, yet some rise up in marvelous ways. They all deserve to be loved even though some make it impossible (on purpose!). Overall it is always a matter of discovery; only the weak-minded and insecure try to flatten the experience to a few qualities. Sensuality is best mixed with intimacy if you want the most extreme wash of emotions - but it is not for the faint at heart! Vulnerability is the way, and the obstacle. Need I say more? It's just too damned exciting to miss, and the degrees and shades and qualities of individuals are only overlooked by the numb.