There are two recurring questions that I find myself answering. The two are different but related:

1. "Why would I want to know every little detail about what my friends are doing from Twitter/Facebook/Friendfeed?"


2. "How do you not get overwhelmed by all the people you follow/friend?"

My short answer is I don't treat it like a fire hose I have to drink down, I treat it like a stream I dip my feet in every so often. To explain this statement, I need to first talk about friends and travel.

I was born in Vancouver, spent my formative years in Hong Kong and then returned to Vancouver for the last two years of high school and college before moving to Austin for my first job. All this moving was a mixed blessing. I was able to experience many different perspectives and made a wide range of friends from all over the world. On the other hand, there were few friends that shared my experiences throughout.

Whenever I visited Hong Kong, which is roughly annually, I meet up with my childhood friends. Conventional thinking would say that, because we haven't seen each other for a year, we'd have a lot more to catch up on than say, someone here in San Francisco that I saw just the day before.

Anyone who has experience with this can tell you that it simply isn't true. When you're apart that long, conversation topics feel like they need to be a minimum level of significance to be worth discussing: career changes, marital status change, buying of property, perhaps a new family member, etc. A sample conversation might be like this:

Friend: "So how've you been?"
Me: "Great. Things are going well. I got engaged!"
Friend: "Congrats! You still doing that computer thing?"
Me: "Yeah. Still at the same place. You still at the same firm?"
Friend: "Yeah, 3 years now."
Me: "Wow ..."
Friend: "MmHmm ..."

In contrast, the friends you see every day or every week are the ones you can talk to for hours. Why? Because any topic is fair game. You don't feel like you have to filter out the more mundane topics because it's such a significant event to be catching up with the person. How was that movie? Did you go climbing yesterday? Did you see that crazy YouTube video? No topic is too trivial.

So how is any of that relevant to the information overload of Twitter and Facebook?

To me, Twitter and Facebook updates represent the mundane, everyday conversations that I could and would have with everyone if I could. By seeing the stream of updates from my friends, I have much more context into their lives, and a feeling that I can converse with them about smaller things. To use a clich