So I was thinking the other day about getting married. Not to anyone in particular or any time soon, but just about my desire to be married. I'm not exactly an old maid (in fact some call me "puppy";), but if one more person asks me if I have a boyfriend (meaning "prospect"), my eyes will well up and I will say "I did, but he died last week." Ok, maybe that's mean, but follow me here, I have a point.

For some reason, marriage in many people's minds, whether they admit it or not, is some kind of achievement. I'm an over-achiever, so you can imagine my frustration at how seemingly "behind" they make me feel. Thoughts like "how did she get married before me" and "you can't even cook" run through my mind sometimes. Makes me wonder what my problem is. Perhaps we would call this jealousy?

And yet I love my life. I've traveled more in the last five years than many people do in a lifetime. I was able to pursue my education without the added responsibility of a husband. I have time to be involved in lots of different activities and ministries.

Contrast this with my friend. He married young and has been married for almost 20 years to an incredible wife. Has two adorable kids. He loves his life. And yet he enjoys listening to my stories of all the places I've been and the things I've seen, wishing he had such an opportunity. He is forever encouraging me to not rush this time in my life that I sometimes can't wait to be past.

What's the difference? Perspective.

Not to be confused with the old adage "the grass is greener on the other side." That's not what it is about. Neither of us would trade what we have. Rather, we remind each other to appreciate it.

And that is the beauty of perspective.

Here's a shocker: it's Biblical as well! The greatest commandment is love the Lord with all your heart, soul, and mind.

If I really did that, how would that change my perspective?

If I lived like I truly believe in my heart that God has plans for me and my future (Jeremiah 29:11), would I quit comparing myself to others and be content with the blessings God has given me?

I think that's the idea.

Does that take away my desire to be married? My friend's desire to travel the world with only a backpack? No. It's not about changing our desires, per se. It's about submitting them to God, his loving plan, and his perspective. Loving him with our all inevitably makes our desires pale in comparison and adjusts our perspective.

I realize that I will never be perfect in this area, but I intend to make it my goal to take every thought captive (2 Cor 10:5) and focus on truth.

And to be thankful for friends who remind me how good I've got it!

How's your perspective?